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		<title>It reduced me to tears.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Nov 2018 01:51:25 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>&#160; I’m not sure where to start. All I know is I feel angry and sad, and so I am turning to the one thing I always turn to when faced with powerful emotions-  I write. &#160; It Reduced Me To Tears&#8230; Here goes. I was enjoying a leisurely Saturday morning lie in, sipping my [&#8230;]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div id="attachment_8086" style="width: 235px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-8086" class="wp-image-8086 size-medium" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735-225x300.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="300" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735-610x813.jpg 610w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735-1080x1440.jpg 1080w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/IMG_0735.jpg 1932w" sizes="(max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px" /><p id="caption-attachment-8086" class="wp-caption-text">I wish this was a pic of me perfectly styled, laughing on a beach, but it is me in my bed Saturday morning &#8211; angry and sad.</p></div>
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<p>I’m not sure where to start.</p>
<p>All I know is I feel angry and sad, and so I am turning to the one thing I always turn to when faced with powerful emotions-  I write.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;"><span style="caret-color: #008000;">It Reduced Me To Tears&#8230;</span></span></h2>
<p>Here goes.</p>
<p>I was enjoying a leisurely Saturday morning lie in, sipping my tea in bed and flipping through the papers when an article caught my eye.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>‘Disgusting’ bullying: Boy with cerebral palsy made to lie in muddy creek as human bridge for laughing classmates</em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">– The Washington Post</p>
<p>This story, that took place in Glace Bay, Nova Scotia, reduced me to tears.</p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;">Deep Breath </span></h2>
<p>A young man with cerebral palsy, fourteen year old Brett Corbett, was sent to the school office when he turned up in class soaking wet, and when asked what had happened, he told the Principle that kids had dared him to swim in the creek behind the school.</p>
<p>The true story only came out when video of what actually occurred started circulating on social media.</p>
<p>Here is an excerpt from the WP story:</p>
<p><em>“In one video displayed with this article, Corbett, a high school freshman with cerebral palsy, is seen standing in the middle of shallow, murky water while more than a dozen kids stare down at him from the top of a small hill. He lies down on his stomach, keeping his palms flat in the mud to steady himself as the current rushes past him. </em></p>
<p><em> </em><em>Then, a moment later, a girl leaps from the bank, steps on Corbett’s back as if it were a springboard, and launches herself to the other side – turning Corbett into a human bridge. </em></p>
<p><em> </em><em>In another video, the teenagers are laughing hysterically. They yell at Corbett to get back in the water after he stands up. He doesn’t want to. </em></p>
<p><em> </em><em>“Do it, you f….. b….!” one classmate screams, and Corbett did.” </em></p>
<p><em> </em><em> Then three more students walked across him.</em></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;">To Post About This Or Not?</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Do you feel awful reading this?</p>
<p>I thought twice about writing this post because there is already so much negativity and pain in the world, and did I really want to inflict more on you through my newsletter?</p>
<p>Of course I don’t, but we need to balance the <em>“ostrich hiding it’s head in the sand” </em>impulse with taking a realistic look at what is going on in our world and examining our own actions in it.</p>
<p>So I am sharing it as a jumping off point to think about what the heck we are all doing with our lives.</p>
<p>How are we producing children that think it is ok to order a disabled boy into an ice cold stream and walk over him?</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">What the hell is wrong with our society?</p>
<p>And yes, I am a mother of a sweet young man who has a disability, and so this story hits me hard. But even without one of my sons’ having special needs I would still be angry.</p>
<p>I wonder about these bullying kids and their parents, because children as we know, emulate their parents.</p>
<p>And I also know that sometimes despite all good intentions, children can go off the rails.</p>
<p>In my view however, a child by the age of 10, maybe even younger, realizes the difference between right and wrong, so the responsibility in this case truly lies with the teenager instigators and bystanders.</p>
<p>How do they define a successful life?</p>
<p>What do they value as they move throughout the world?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;">In My ‘Hood</span></h2>
<p>In my neighborhood there is one family who from the get go, pretty much shunned us from the moment we moved in.</p>
<p>At first I thought it was because of my son’s disability but after a few years I realized they avoided most everyone, and from sports teams to the school crossing guard, to the principle at our elementary school, they left a trail of conflict.</p>
<p>As an almost decade long observer of this family I have watched how those children have grown into &#8216;mini me&#8217; versions of their parents, picking up what I can only describe as, negative and petty traits in the process.  And it wasn’t too surprising to hear that the mother and father recently went through a bitter divorce.</p>
<p>How does the individuals in that family define a successful life? I have often wondered.</p>
<p>It is certainly not through creating strong relationships in their community and giving back to others, and that is sad, because that is where the good stuff of life resides.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;">The World We Live In</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Today our word is so visual, hyper paced, and focused on <em>getting more</em>.</p>
<p>As we prioritize making money and achieving status, over the care and nurturing of our children, we are instead creating a generation of self – centred, callous youth whose only goals are getting rich or famous and and to seeing how many ‘likes’ or followers they can get on the superficial world of social media.</p>
<p>Why did so many of those students film the awful treatment of Brett Corbett?</p>
<p>And they not only recorded it but seemed to have proudly posted it on social media?!</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">It&#8217;s hard to get your head around.</p>
<p>I know there are many decent young people out there to counter those, like the students above, who have clearly sinned, and by sinned I am not saying it in a biblical sense but am referring to the Latin meaning of the word which defines sin as having <em>“missed the mark”.</em></p>
<p>These students have ‘missed the mark’ because they thought that by behaving like a group of screaming monkeys throwing rocks at a vulnerable member of their tribe <em>for fun</em>, that they would be cool, or be accepted.</p>
<p>And by not speaking up and saying &#8220;No that is not right!&#8221; they all hoped to avoid being on the receiving end of such abusive treatment themselves.</p>
<h2><span style="color: #008000;">Superficial World, Superficial Goals </span></h2>
<p>What they will realize as they age, is that they will carry their shame and remorse for the part they played in this spectacle for many years to come, and this story for them, will never go away.</p>
<p>And for the victim?</p>
<p>Well there are people in their eighties that still experience nightmares over bullying that happened to them when they were kids.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">It is so, so damaging.</p>
<p>But Brett Corbett, who said he did as the kids ordered because he wanted to be &#8220;accepted&#8221; says he has forgiven them. And that he hopes what he experienced will help prevent some other person from being treated so terribly.</p>
<p>This kid clearly has a big, bright, loving spirit and I believe he will do well in life. And it certainly has been heartening to see the outpouring of love he has received from people all around the world who, like me, feel so badly about what he had to go through.</p>
<p>My hope is that the young people who stood and watched Brett Corbett be humiliated will feel true remorse, embarrassment and sadness over how they have treated their fellow human being, and that they learn some important lessons from it.</p>
<p>But regardless I can’t shake the sense that we are all getting off track with our focus on all the <em>“shiny things”, </em>the flashy cars, big houses, the jet set lifestyle etc., because when we stop focusing on what <em>really </em>matters &#8211; our relationships with others, kindness and service to our community, we ALL lose.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008000;">What Will People Say About You When You Are Gone?</span></h2>
<p style="text-align: center;">Think about it.</p>
<ul>
<li>What would you like people to say about you at your funeral?</li>
<li>What would you want written on your gravestone?</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>That you had 20,000 Instagram &#8216;likes&#8217; at the time of your death?</p>
<p>Or that you died with a million dollars in your bank account?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What about your children, or nieces and nephews, or your friend&#8217;s kids?</p>
<ul>
<li>How would you describe them?</li>
<li>If they are still small, what type of individual would you like them see to grow into?</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Not like one of the teenagers involved in the Glace Bay event, that I am sure of.</p>
<p>In the wake of this story, I know that I am going to be spending a few days thinking about how I define a successful life, and what I would like a successful life to look like for my children, and I&#8217;m going to further consider how I am showing up in the world and what I could improve upon.</p>
<p>After reading this, I hope you consider what a successful life means for yourself and your family as well.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">Because I think we can all do a little better.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Until next time.</p>
<p>xo</p>
<p>Eliz</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008000;">On Social&#8230;&#8230;</span></h2>
<p>On a lighter note, if you want to read about how the movie &#8216;The Princess Bride&#8217; helped me deal with a demanding boss and get my &#8216;happy&#8217; vibes back, click <a href="https://www.facebook.com/elizjturner/">HERE</a></p>
<p>and look for the <em>&#8216;As You Wish&#8217;</em> post.</p>
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		<title>Radical Self Care</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 27 Oct 2018 17:48:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Worn out and weary women! This post about RSC (radical self care) is for you! As the old saying goes, how you do one thing is how you do everything, so if you are operating from a harried and anxious place, this will come across in ALL aspects of your life. The antidote? Radical self- [&#8230;]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Worn out and weary women! This post about RSC (radical self care) is for you! As the old saying goes, how you do one thing is how you do <em>everything</em>, so if you are operating from a harried and anxious place, this will come across in ALL aspects of your life. The antidote? Radical self- care.</p>
<div id="attachment_8056" style="width: 235px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-8056" class="wp-image-8056 size-medium" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619-225x300.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="300" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619-610x813.jpg 610w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619-1080x1440.jpg 1080w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/IMG_0619.jpg 1932w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px" /><p id="caption-attachment-8056" class="wp-caption-text">Practicing radical self care! -7:30AM post gym selfie from Friday</p></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>(*Todays message was originally posted on my Instagram account Friday morning- hence the emojis!).<a href="https://www.instagram.com/elizturnercoach/?hl=en"> https://www.instagram.com/elizturnercoach/?hl=en</a></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Burn Out </span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This is a subject that comes up again and again in my line of work. I have seen so many women juggling full time work, their families, supporting loved ones who are ill or disabled, striving to be perfect at work and home (the topic of perfection I will leave for another day as that is a meaty one!) &#8211; all while putting themselves on the back burner. A few years ago I did this as well.</p>
<p>But I learned some hard lessons and I do this no longer! ?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Why I practice radical self-care?</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Because it is key!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">If you aren’t functioning at 100% how can you best support others?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>We want to be functioning from a soulful place of strength not operating out of fear, right? You can only run on the fumes of anxiety and stress for so long and then you will hit a wall.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">How to prevent this?</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>RADICAL SELF CARE!</p>
<p>and&#8230;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&#8230; for me, going to the gym consistently is one of my RSC pillars.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>My alarm went off at 5:30am and I did not want to get up as I was tired from a busy week, and the bed was so cozy, but I thought about how good I would feel after. So I went and took some of my micro aggressions out on the medicine ball! ?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Now as I write this I feel less stressed about events that before were bothering me, I feel calmer and stronger and I sleep better. ??</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Exercise, restorative sleep, massages with an RMT, play, family time, things to look forward to, and eating food that comes from the ground, not a box or bag, are other key pillars of RSC ?.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-8061" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d-300x300.jpeg" alt="" width="300" height="300" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d-300x300.jpeg 300w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d-150x150.jpeg 150w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d-768x768.jpeg 768w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d-610x610.jpeg 610w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/fullsizeoutput_417d.jpeg 800w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">The Daily Check In</span></h2>
<p>So today please check in with yourself and ask what you are doing in terms of RSC?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>How are you feeling in your body right now?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What would feel good to you to do today?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>-Coffee with a friend?</p>
<p>-A nap?</p>
<p>-A stretching class?</p>
<p>-A hike?</p>
<p>-A long soak in the bath?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Do it!</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Put yourself first and watch how everything else falls into place!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>You deserve it!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>xo</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Eliz</p>
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		<title>Like on &#8216;Game of Thrones&#8217;? Kind of.  Activating your inner &#8216;watcher on the wall&#8217; for a better life.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jun 2018 04:49:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>&#160; I was working with a client recently who has been succumbing to &#8216;stinking thinking&#8217;. And by &#8216;stinking thinking&#8217; I am saying that she is thinking thoughts that do not serve her. In response to this trend we had a chat about viewing her life from an observer&#8217;s perspective, instead of getting triggered and reacting. [&#8230;]</p>
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<p>I was working with a client recently who has been succumbing to &#8216;stinking thinking&#8217;. And by &#8216;stinking thinking&#8217; I am saying that she is thinking thoughts that do not serve her. In response to this trend we had a chat about viewing her life from an observer&#8217;s perspective, instead of getting triggered and reacting.</p>
<p><em>&#8216;Just observe your thoughts as they come up&#8217;</em> I said to her.  As we are both Game of Thrones fans I added; <em>&#8216;Like an internal &#8216;watcher on the wall&#8217; if you will.&#8217;</em>  For you non GOT fans, the &#8216;watchers&#8217; are the men from a group of soldiers called the Night&#8217;s Watch, who, high atop the ice wall, keep a look out for invading bands of &#8216;Wildings&#8217; and zombie like &#8216;White Walkers&#8217;.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008000;">Tapping Into Our Inner &#8216;Watcher On The Wall&#8217;</span></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When we learn how to tap into our inner &#8216;watcher on the wall&#8217; BIG changes can occur.</p>
<p>Instead of reaching for that third bowl of potato chips, when our &#8216;watcher&#8217; is activated, we have an opportunity to pause and question our automatic responses (like reaching for more potato chips!).</p>
<p>And with the pause comes the chance to ask;</p>
<p><em>&#8216;Is eating this third bowl of potato chips really what I want to do right now?&#8217; Or am I just bored? Maybe I am actually tired and what my body really needs at this moment is sleep, not more potato chips&#8217;.</em></p>
<p>With our inner &#8216;watcher&#8217; alert we are less prone to falling for triggers like a snarky comment from a co-worker, or a judgmental remark from a family member. Instead we can simply sit back and observe the scene, and then tune into our inner dialogue ie. how we are reacting to what is being said, and questioning why we are reacting as we are.</p>
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<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff00ff;">The &#8216;watcher&#8217; at work&#8230;.</span></h3>
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<p>The watcher on the wall process might go along the lines of;</p>
<p><em> &#8216;Wow. That is so interesting. I was telling X all about my fabulous new work project and then she said;</em></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;">&#8216;I hope you got that raise you have been wanting given all this extra work you are doing&#8217;.</span></p>
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<p>Your &#8216;watcher&#8217; contemplates her statement.</p>
<p><em>Hmmmm. How curious.</em> <em>She said that and then I felt irritated, because I have not yet asked for that raise. I can feel myself wanting to get defensive and argue with her, but I&#8217;m going to stay with this and let the situation unfold. I will let that trigger slip away. Yes, that certainly feels better.</em></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">&#8216;Shoulding&#8217; All Over Ourselves And Others</span></h2>
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<p>The client I was referring to at the start of this post has been troubled by thoughts such as;</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;">&#8216;I should have been promoted to senior management years ago&#8221;.</span></p>
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<p><em>&#8216;Really?</em> I ask her. <em>Should you have been? </em><em>Who said that? Because I didn&#8217;t. Seems to me you are putting that pressure on yourself.&#8217;</em></p>
<p>To my client I added this.</p>
<p><em>&#8216;And when you repeat that thought to yourself; <span style="color: #000080;">&#8216;I should have been promoted to senior management years ago.&#8217;</span> How does that make you feel?</em></p>
<p>My client responds.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;">&#8216;I feel bad&#8217;. </span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><em>&#8216;I feel bad&#8217;.</em></p>
<p>Not how we want to feel right?</p>
<p>No, we want to feel good!</p>
<p>How can we take steps towards our goals and create amazing things in the world when we feel &#8216;bad&#8217;?</p>
<p>We can&#8217;t.</p>
<p>That is why we need to work on feeling good. And to feel good you need to think positive thoughts. Thoughts that will serve you and energize you and keep your momentum up.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008000;">Train Your Watcher To Do This&#8230;.</span></h2>
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<p>So train your &#8216;watcher&#8217; into catching these red flag phrases;</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><em>I should, I must, I need to, I have to.</em>&#8230;.</span></p>
<p>If you are thinking these kind of thoughts, that means is that your &#8216;watcher on the wall&#8217; is asleep at the switch. The barbarians (unhelpful thoughts) are at the gate and your &#8216;watcher&#8217; need to &#8216;get woke&#8217; pronto or they will slip past and once they do, well then there will be trouble.</p>
<p>There will be trouble because&#8230;</p>
<p>&#8230;.your <em>thoughts</em> create your feelings, your<em> feelings</em> create your actions, and your <em>actions</em> create your life.</p>
<p>Wake up your watcher, keep him / her alert and keep your thoughts helpful.</p>
<p>And it will all be good.</p>
<p>xo</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Elizabeth</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Oct 2017 03:39:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>After a tough week, 3 uplifting things for YOU! &#160; &#160; In this Full Flight post I&#8217;m going to address the hard things first, followed by three uplifting things that I know you will appreciate -so be sure to read all the way through ok? No way around it. This past week has been devastating. [&#8230;]</p>
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<p>In this Full Flight post I&#8217;m going to address the hard things first, followed by three uplifting things that I know you will appreciate -so be sure to read all the way through ok?</p>
<p>No way around it.</p>
<p>This past week has been devastating.</p>
<p>I CAN. NOT. GET. MY. HEAD. AROUND. what occurred in Las Vegas.</p>
<p>I watched the news last night and they showed pictures of all 58 of the victims.</p>
<p>Beautiful, caring people of all ages, bright lights of their communities, mothers, father, sisters, brothers, sons, daughters, all gone&#8230;..incomprehensible.  My husband pointed out that the loss of their lives will affect their families and neighbourhoods for generations to come.</p>
<p>Only someone with no experience of true love and connection could unleash this kind of horror.</p>
<p>And then amidst all this, the news that beloved rocker Tom Petty had died as well. Gone too soon at age 66.</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><em><span style="color: #000000;">&#8216;You and I will meet again, when we&#8217;re least expecting it.</span></em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em><span style="color: #000000;">One day in some far off place, I will recognize your face. I won&#8217;t say goodbye, my friend, for you and I will meet again&#8217;.</span> </em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>&#8211; </em><span style="color: #ff6600;">Tom Petty</span></p>
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<p>Yep it was an awful week and it shook me, as I am sure it shook you as well.</p>
<p>I had all this pent up, angry energy and felt-off kilter.</p>
<p>But I also know feeling this way doesn&#8217;t serve anyone.  It doesn&#8217;t serve me, my family, my clients, my friends, it just isn&#8217;t helpful. And all that energy has to go somewhere, so what to do?</p>
<p>I started by channelling my dismay into Facebook Posts. After doing that for a day or two, I still felt sad and unsettled, so I took a different tact.</p>
<p>I did 3 specific things to get myself back into balance- and it worked!  And I posted a video about it on social media.</p>
<p>I called it:</p>
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<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#8216;3 Ways to Raise Your Vibration and Restore Your Equilibrium&#8217;</span></h2>
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<p>If you are feeling off balance or despondent after this awful week, or due to any other challenges you are experiencing in your life, then I recommend that you watch this <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJvtEWEB_oc"><span style="color: #ff0000;">VIDEO</span> </a>(click on the word &#8216;video&#8217; for the link) because I know that if you take these steps, you WILL feel better!</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #000000;">If You Are a Local Women This Uplifting Group May Be Just What You Are Looking For! </span></h2>
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<p>And for you local ladies (Surrey / Vancouver, BC area) &#8211; exciting news!!!</p>
<p>I have a new in- person coaching group starting soon! It&#8217;s called-</p>
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<h2 style="text-align: center;"> &#8216;The Club&#8217;</h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><em>(Coaching, Cardio and Coffee Club that is!)</em></h2>
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<p>&#8216;The Club&#8217; kicks off later this month and is a 4 month group coaching program that will meet up twice a month -once for group coaching and a coaching presentation in the evening, and one time a month for an &#8216;action&#8217; oriented event (snowshoeing, private hip hop dance class etc&#8230;) on a Sunday.</p>
<p>If you are looking for fun group of like- minded women and want to be inspired, empowered AND break a sweat, you can find out all about this new fun coaching group<span style="color: #000000;"> <span style="color: #ff0000;"><a href="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/coaching-cardio-coffee-club/">HERE.</a></span></span></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff6600;">Need More Laughter? </span></h2>
<h3><span style="color: #000000;">(and who doesn&#8217;t?)</span></h3>
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<p>And because we all need more laughter in our lives, check <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqT0ayeR8Ps"><span style="color: #ff6600;">THIS trailer out</span> </a>&#8211; Steve suggested we watch this show last night and I was <em>uplifted</em> because it was HILARIOUS (especially the bit about the socks!!!!).</p>
<p>You do need a subscription to NETFLIX however to access it&#8230;and I recommend that you do as it does not disappoint!</p>
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<p>That&#8217;s it for today lovely.</p>
<p>Sending you peace, love, light and laughter after a tough week, and to my fellow Canadians &#8211; Happy Thanksgiving!</p>
<p>We ALL have so much to be thankful for don&#8217;t we?</p>
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<p>xo</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Eliz</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Feb 2017 01:01:56 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>&#160; &#160; &#160; &#160; &#160; &#160; It has been a tough couple of weeks hasn&#8217;t it? Total social media overwhelm right?  On our Facebook and Instagram feeds, on the news, on the radio. You can&#8217;t escape it. The antics of the U.S. president, another tragedy (this time in Quebec) and other bad news stories sucked [&#8230;]</p>
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<p>It has been a tough couple of weeks hasn&#8217;t it?</p>
<p>Total social media overwhelm right?  On our Facebook and Instagram feeds, on the news, on the radio. You can&#8217;t escape it.</p>
<p>The antics of the U.S. president, another tragedy (this time in Quebec) and other bad news stories sucked me in. These last ten days or so I have felt simultaneously anxious and lethargic, and have had trouble sleeping.</p>
<p>At first I thought my lethargy was resistance.</p>
<p>Specifically resistance to learning a webinar platform I recently purchased (let&#8217;s just say I&#8217;m not tech savvy lol).</p>
<p>I thought my insomnia was due to too much caffeine.  I&#8217;d get up in the wee hours of the morning make some hot milk, read a book and then fall back asleep just as my son Oliver was getting up at 5am.</p>
<p>During the day I&#8217;ve been dragging and in between client appointments I have found myself watching consecutive episodes of the Gilmore Girls instead of working.  I usually enjoy scrolling through my social media feeds and posting and doing computer work but instead I was avoiding these things.</p>
<p>When my husband saw me zoning out, yet again, in front of Gilmore Girls he said; </description><br />
&#8216;<em>Why do you keep watching that show?&#8217;</em></p>
<p>I shrugged<em>. &#8216;It&#8217;s good&#8217;. </em></p>
<p>He then said; </description><em>&#8216;I know why you like that show. It&#8217;s because it is a simpler, less complicated time, and nothing really bad happens. It is an escape from real life&#8217;.</em></p>
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<h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Lightbulb moment!</span></h3>
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<p>He was right.</p>
<p>It wasn&#8217;t resistance I was experiencing,  or the effects of excess caffeine, it was <span style="color: #008000;">social media overwhelm</span> and that onslaught of negativity had led me to my current state (not working, in yoga pants, on the couch watching GG).</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008000;">Social media overwhelm and why you need to protect yourself</span></h2>
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<p>Loving ourselves is essential if we wish to reach our full potential as humans, and practicing <span style="color: #ff00ff;">self love</span> includes being mindful of how much negative news and social media we are exposing ourselves to.</p>
<p>We only have so much energetic &#8216;capital&#8217; and absorbing too much of the bad stuff robs us of our life energy- energy that we need to thrive.</p>
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<h3><span style="color: #008000;">Going Down The Facebook Rabbit Hole&#8230;</span></h3>
<p>So when that you see that post on Facebook that gets you all fired up, which you then share on your wall, or write something in the comments section, or furiously type back and forth with someone with an opposing point of view, well those small moves are energy expenditures.</p>
<p>I am not saying it&#8217;s bad to stand up for what you believe in, or express your opinion or debate with others on social media -all that is great, in fact it is <em>essential,</em> but I have learned first hand that it is beneficial to pay attention to how you are going about it.</p>
<p>Ask yourself;</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>&#8216;Do I want to spend my emotional currency in this manner? Am I ok with spending thirty minutes writing a Facebook post about this, or spending an hour reading these political posts or is there something else I would rather be focussing on?&#8221;</em></p>
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<p>Protecting your self (self love) is crucial as there are only so many hours in a day and and our energy supply is finite.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Creating your &#8216;diamond shield&#8217; for protection</span></h2>
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<p>Once I recognized that social media overwhelm was the cause of my slump I was able to do something about it.</p>
<p>I&#8230;</p>
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<p style="text-align: left;">-Took a step back from social media to gain some perspective</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Watched Gilmore Girls instead of the nightly news</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Turned off my phone well before bed time and read a light hearted book instead</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Went snowshoeing with a friend, soaked up the vitamin D (it was a sunny day) and feasted my eyes on nature instead of my newsfeed</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Put my focus on my children and outstanding work / home projects instead of tuning into all the things the President of the U.S. was doing</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Went to bed early and maintained my exercise schedule</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">-Swapped out some cups of coffee for herbal tea</p>
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<p>What I was doing by taking the above steps was building a &#8216;diamond shield&#8217; of protection around myself, thereby ending the negative social media assault I had exposed myself to in the previous weeks.</p>
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<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-5405" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/images-2-300x143.jpeg" alt="" width="300" height="143" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/images-2-300x143.jpeg 300w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/images-2.jpeg 325w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></p>
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<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #008000;">It is SO important to pay attention to where your energy and focus is going!</span></h3>
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<p>If your energy is flowing towards news stories that are created for the sole purpose of grabbing attention, instilling fear, and making money, there is no energy left over for the good stuff,  for creating art, generating ideas, completing projects, solving problems, or channelling emotions in an appropriate way.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">How are you feeling right now?</span></h2>
<p>If you have been spending a lot of time on social media, check in with yourself, how are you feeling right now?</p>
<p>Is your Facebook feed and dose of nightly news helping you feel better or worse? Are you taking in a stream of negativity or is your feed filled with uplifting posts?  Is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and comparisons to others you see on social media making you feel bad?</p>
<p>If what you are viewing is bringing you down it is time for a break my friend!</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">What You Can Do If You Need A &#8216;Time Out&#8217;</span></h2>
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<p>If your self care practice hasn&#8217;t been as rigorous as you would like it to be, and your diamond shield has a few holes in it, then here are a few suggestions;</p>
<p>Go for a walk, pet a dog, call a friend, bake some cookies, exercise, drink a glass of water, write in your journal, listen to soothing music, schedule a massage, attend a yoga class, make a cup of tea, watch a funny movie, read a good book, create a delicious meal, arrange some flowers, listen to an amusing podcast, feed your backyard birds &#8230;.</p>
<p>Do whatever you need to do to create and or strengthen your diamond shield because without self love you will end up depleted.</p>
<p>Without self love we have no love to share with those around us, no love to share with our family, friends, community, country and world- and in these turbulent times we need all the love we can get!</p>
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<p>&#8230;and if you are curious about another way to enhance your self love and strengthen your diamond shield <a href="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/mini-coaching-workshop-based-book-love-warrior-glennon-doyle-melton/">CLICK HERE</a></p>
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<p>xo</p>
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<p>Eliz</p>
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		<title>Grief, anger, disorientation-coming to grips with the US election results</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>The US election. Wow. Four days on and I am just finding my feet again. According to the Kubler-Moss model of grief there are several stages you move through when processing grief.  Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. I feel like I have been through them all after waking up Wednesday morning to find that [&#8230;]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The US election. Wow.</p>
<p>Four days on and I am just finding my feet again.</p>
<p>According to the Kubler-Moss model of grief there are several stages you move through when processing grief.  Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. I feel like I have been through them all after waking up Wednesday morning to find that our neighbours to the south had elected a reality show celebrity to the highest office in the land.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #008000;">I was gutted.</span></p>
<p>Part of me is still gutted!</p>
<p>It was Hillary time, she put in years of work, she had experience on the world stage, she had devoted her adult life to public service and this is what she got?</p>
<p>After his hot mic moments, his inflammatory talk about Mexicans and Muslims and his multiple bankruptcies, 53% of white women voted for Trump and cleared his path to the presidency?!</p>
<p>Inconceivable.</p>
<p>(*If you want to see how shocked I was check out the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/wibeth.turner">FaceBook Live</a> video I made in my PJ&#8217;s during the early hours of Wednesday morning- but you will have to scroll down my page to find it as I posted A LOT after the election).</p>
<p>But it IS real and on Friday, January 20th, 2017 Donald J. Trump will become the most powerful man in the free world.</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;"> What Comes Next?</span></h2>
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<p>What the heck do we do now?</p>
<p>Well we start small for one. We start with ourselves.</p>
<p>In the wake of the election one of my mentors Dr. Martha Beck put out some wise and calming videos and a telecall. (*I have put the full directions to get to Martha&#8217;s post election video and the one hour follow up call below. If you are feeling frustrated, depressed or angry I highly recommend you watch / listen to them).</p>
<p>Basically I focussed on <span style="color: #008000;">raising my positive frequency.</span></p>
<p>Here&#8217;s what I did;</p>
<p>My British father in law was coming to stay with us two days after the election and we were down to the wire to get his room ready before his arrival. The spare room had been untouched since we moved in five years before and it really looked shabby. There was scribbling on the walls and tack holes everywhere. Giving it a fresh coat of paint helped me to get some of my angst out (*new color was celery green- pic below if you are interested).</p>
<p>I took a break from the painting to snuggle with Rebus (our cairn terrier) then I took him for a walk, admiring the fall leaves and the clouds in the sky.</p>
<p>Once the painting was done I popped into Starbucks and treated myself to a skinny peppermint mocha, the first of the season and from there did a little shopping. It is hard to be totally bummed out when you are surrounded by beautiful items and glittering Christmas displays. I bought a red throw blanket and a coral lamp from Pier 1, then went home and sorted out the new items in the guest room which now looked clean and inviting.</p>
<p>I felt better.</p>
<div id="attachment_4949" style="width: 235px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-4949" class="wp-image-4949 size-medium" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120-225x300.jpg" alt="img_0120" width="225" height="300" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120-610x813.jpg 610w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120-1080x1440.jpg 1080w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0120.jpg 1537w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px" /><p id="caption-attachment-4949" class="wp-caption-text">Trying to regain my equilibrium with a skinny peppermint mocha</p></div>
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<p>On November 11th we attended the Remembrance Day ceremonies in Fort Langley, the birthplace of BC. There in the old cemetery with its wrought iron fencing and towering chestnut trees we listened to the bag piper play &#8216;Last Post&#8217; and watched as the four planes roared over head at 11:00AM. After the crowds had dispersed Will and his Grandad laid their poppies on the cenotaph.</p>
<p>I felt gratitude towards those who had paid the ultimate sacrifice. I felt proud to be Canadian.  I felt better.</p>
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<div id="attachment_4950" style="width: 310px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-4950" class="wp-image-4950 size-medium" src="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-300x300.jpg" alt="img_0121" width="300" height="300" srcset="https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-768x768.jpg 768w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-610x610.jpg 610w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121-1080x1080.jpg 1080w, https://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/IMG_0121.jpg 2047w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /><p id="caption-attachment-4950" class="wp-caption-text">At the Fort Langley cemetery</p></div>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">Fighting Against Reality</span></h2>
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<p>&#8216;<em>When you fight against reality you will always lose</em>&#8216;. I tell my clients.</p>
<p>The reality here is that Trump is the President Elect and it is doubtful that can be changed at this point. But it is still possible to accept <em>what is</em> while at the same time working for change.</p>
<p>My take on this outcome-gut punch as it was, is that <span style="color: #ff00ff;">we needed this.</span></p>
<p>We needed Brexit, we needed to see the far right groups surging across Europe, we needed those terrorist attacks in France, and we needed to see those families with small children fleeing the strife in Syria only to drown in the Mediterranean, we needed Putin&#8217;s dictating ways and the invasion of the Ukraine, we needed that crazy president in the Philippines who is killing all the drug dealers, and we needed Trump to win this election in order to WAKE US UP!</p>
<p>We need (and by &#8216;we&#8217; I include myself in that as well) to get out of our bubbles and start paying more attention to what is happening around us. The old world order is breaking down and we are now a global village which means what affects one group of people affects us all. Trumps&#8217; win has shown a good chunk of the world what we DON&#8217;T want. As I write this the EU has just convened an emergency meeting to discuss how to deal with Trump and his foreign policy mandate.</p>
<p>So we know what we don&#8217;t want but the question is; <em>&#8216;What do we do about it?&#8217;</em></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #ff00ff;">The First Thing We Need To Do&#8230;</span></h2>
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<p>Before we can do anything we need to get to feeling good <em>first</em> so we don&#8217;t act out of anger or fear.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>You need to get to feeling good</em> <em>any way you can</em> </span>because we need you, we need each other and we all need to be shining our lights in this world, and to do this we need to be operating on all cylinders, we need to be elevated, peaceful and in the flow.</p>
<p>In Martha&#8217;s video she directs us to ask ourselves;  <em>&#8216;In a nation (or world- my words) so divided, who is doing the loving?&#8217;</em></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;">Who IS doing the loving?</p>
<p>We can do the loving.</p>
<p>We can love our neighbour. We can love the Syrian refugees that have recently arrived on our shores and we can love the First Nations people who are experiencing so much pain on their reserves. There is A LOT of work to be done in our country and around the world and this election result is a golden opportunity.</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t figured out what I am going to do yet- volunteer, donate money, get more political?&#8230;. but starting with social media posts I am speaking out, I am writing about it, I am talking to my kids about why I was so sad after last Tuesday&#8217;s election.  That&#8217;s a start, but it needs to continue and I have some ideas percolating!</p>
<p>So if you are feeling disheartened and sad, look after yourself, listen to Martha&#8217;s work, turn off the news, put down your devices and pet you dog, rake the leaves, love your neighbour. Do whatever you can to raise your vibration and get to feeling good again and then get out there and shine your light and together we can create a world we DO want!</p>
<p>xo</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Eliz</p>
<p>*To find Martha&#8217;s post election FaceBook live video go to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/wibeth.turner">my Facebook page</a> and scroll down till you see the video (Martha&#8217;s wearing purple) or go directly to her FB page and do the same. If you want to listen to the one hour post election call go to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/marthabeckauthor/?fref=ts">Martha Beck&#8217;s FB page</a> and scroll down past the video until you are past the second picture of the eclipse (you are looking for the Nov. 10 th call <em>&#8216;After The Election. Now What?</em>&#8216;). In the comments section below you will see the link to the tele -seminar call. If you only have time for one I recommend listening to the call.</p>
<p>*Also a reminder that of <span style="color: #ff00ff;">Nov. 15th at midnight</span> my 3 month coaching package <a href="http://www.fullflightlifecoaching.com/overwhelmed-to-optimal/"><em>Overwhelmed to Optimal</em></a> will be increasing in price. If you want private coaching with me at the lower rate shoot me an email at elizjturner@gmail.com or contact me through my website.</p>
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